If you’ve never had a terrible, awful day of being a parent, please, teach me your secrets.
Because lately I’ve had days where I’ve felt exhausted, I’ve been second-guessing myself all the time, and find myself wide awake at night wondering if I’m making all the wrong decisions when it comes to parenting my toddler and preschooler.
Yes, while I like to keep things pretty sunshine-y on this blog, it’s only fair that I admit and talk about the days that suck, because we definitely have them.
You see, it’s easy to blog about the parenting successes — sleep transition wins, getting your child to use the potty, awesome decorating tips, but admitting you’ve had some rough days, well, that’s a little harder.
I’ve always said though, that this blog wouldn’t be a place where I’d get into details of parenting struggles that my kids would look back on and be embarrassed about later. So we’ll keep it about me.
After a particularly rocky day of begging my preschooler to share for the 20th time, I found myself in the middle of some negative, doubting thoughts about my own parenting strategies and knew I needed to figure out a way to turn that around. Dwelling in that negativity was getting me nowhere. I’m a born problem-solver and it was the time to put together that plan. I got to Googling and texting some of my closest friends about how to tackle said parenting dilemma.
But I didn’t have any answers. They didn’t either.
So instead of trying to “solve” the issue at hand, I started to think about what I could control. What I could do to cheer myself up, and how I could choose to do something for myself instead. Because when I’m content, calm and patient, I’m at my best when it comes to navigating rocky parenting waters.
Do you know the little, simple joys that make you truly happy? Little treasures that make it so that you can’t help but smile? As moms, we spend so much time doing things to make our children, friends or our spouse happy. But having a good grasp on what makes you sincerely joyful can be powerful when you find yourself having a rocky day (and we’ll all be there at some point).
Here’s my happy list – and I’ll be digging this post back up when I need it most during the days when I’m exhausted and depleted.
- Fresh flowers – There are lots of local markets that have fresh seasonal, blooms. Check out these peonies from Red Twig Farms I got last weekend. Today they have farm market Thursday 10-1 or 4-7 and will give you two free blooms if you bring back your bag! More info on their events can be found on their Facebook page.
- An easy, scenic run outside – Gyms are convenient, but if I can get outdoors and sweat, I feel more of an endorphin rush. Did you know Central Ohio has more than 16 MetroParks you can explore?
- Dark coffee – Do you have a favorite local coffee shop? I’ve been wanting to try Java Central in Westerville and here’s a great list from WhatShouldWeDoTodayColumbus of kid-friendly coffee shops.
- Trying a new workout – Getting out of a normal routine helps you gain perspective and confidence in your ability to do something new. I’ve tried a few spinning classes lately and want to also do some yoga (that’s brand new to me!)
- This crockpot recipe – This tortellini sausage dinner is a little heavy for summer, but one of my all-time favorites that’s easy and comforting. It’d be great on a rainy day.
- Getting into a good summer book (check out this list from Home of Malones)
- Worship or country music (loving Brett Eldridge and Ellie Holcomb lately)
- Trying a new recipe (anything Carlsbad Cravings is totally my jam this summer)
- Getting active with your spouse – Golfing with Clint takes me back to our dating days! What’s your favorite way to connect with your spouse outside of a dinner date?
I think the best advice I got from friends of older kids is that there are phases and they pass. As parents, it’s our job to continue to love them fiercely through them while of course guiding them and teaching them right from wrong. As with most tough parts about parenting, patience, coffee and friends will get you through it! Have you gone through a tough phase lately with your toddler or preschooler?