Notice something different? Take a look at the tagline underneath my logo. That’s right – I changed it! I know, I know, it’s not a monumental change but for me it kind of is. For a few years now and two blogs later I never knew what my niche was.
I’m not funny.
I’m not particularly crafty.
I enjoy getting dressed up, but I’m certainly not fashionable.
I like decorating my home, but I go in spurts.
I get nervous about sharing super serious or personal things here.
But you know what I do love, and I crave? Balance. And finding those moments that make you feel wildly happy.
Like this one.
Through a busy corporate career, two kids, cross-country moves, three houses, family member illnesses, traveling, dieting — LIFE — I realized what makes me feel the most centered and whole isn’t when I’m skinniest or richest or have the best new things. It’s when I feel balanced in my life. And I also realized I can only get there by purposefully seeking balance. It doesn’t happen every day and it doesn’t happen by accident.
Right this minute – do you feel like your life has balance?
You’ll start to see a lot more of this kind of info and stories on Borm & Co. Because that’s what matters to me – helping friends and readers and strangers find the beauty and joy in a balanced life. We’re meant to enjoy and savor all the moments of our lives, not just the perfect ones.
So for today’s Thoughts for Thursday, I thought I’d share some of the simple ways (no major life changes here) that have helped me find balance over the past year of pure craziness.
1 / Cut down screen time. OK it is HARD to do this when you want to be a blogger. In fact, it’s kind of contradictory to it. But certain apps like Moment can really help you achieve it. It tracks how long you are active on your phone and after a few days you’ll get a sense of how much you are using it. My threshold is 2 hours — once I see that I’m crossing that time I know it’s not healthy and it’s intruding on other areas of my life. I’m sure everyone’s limit is different (esp if you use your phone for work), but simply being conscious of it helps. Janie at She Just Glows swears by screen-free Sundays, and I’m tempted to give that a shot. Read her post The beauty I found in 36 hours with no cell phone, laptop or TV.
2 / Create a daily to-do list and pick 3 things you want to finish. Some days I was making a to-do list that had 20 things on it. Its physically impossible to do all those things in one day and I ended up feeling like a failure when I didn’t get it all done. Now, I make that whole list (it’s kind of therapeutic) but then I take a step back and prioritize. If I get those top 3 things done, I start to feel better about my productivity.
3 / Prioritize faith. It’s no coincidence that Sundays feel special and balanced. You normally start the day by praying, singing and focusing on God. I had done a really bad job of this lately and realized starting to do devotionals or listening to praise music in the morning sets my heart where it needs to be for the day. Find ways to start with God that work with your day.
4 / Stop and show affection. One of the biggest problems with being busy is you start to feel like a robot. That means that hugs, kisses and meaningful embraces aren’t gonna happen often. When you start connecting with your kids and spouse in a meaningful way, the whole relationship can transform. It’s pretty tough to feel like you have balance if you are out of sync with your kids or husband.
5 / Spend less. Some days I decide I’m just not going to spend any money. No groceries. No online shopping. Not even browsing to fill my cart. I don’t do this for budgetary reasons – I do it to refocus. There is something pretty damaging if you’re always thinking about what you want to buy next and it’s easy to fall into that. If you take the “purchasing” out of the equation for the day, you start to focus on more fulfilling things like preparing and tasting homemade food, walking outdoors with your family, playing and enjoying the toys your kids have, choosing an old sweater you haven’t worn in awhile, or re-watching an old show to make you feel young again (HELLO O.C.!)
6 / Get outdoors. There is nothing that does as much for my soul as being outside. Thankfully we have so many Metro Parks in the area that I can’t wait to explore with the boys this spring. I got a used double BOB that is just waiting to hit those trails. Fresh air, flowers, zero distractions and family can awaken your senses to what’s important.
7 / Sweat. I started finding that when I was working out more I was also more productive and happier. It’s no coincidence. Moving your body has real and tangible effects on mood, and it’s one of the easiest ways to find balance even when you are taking care of children. Adding an extra workout per week could make you feel like a rockstar and improve your sleep at the same time.
8 / Avoid all or nothing diets or plans. I know that these are helpful for people when they want to lose weight – but I’ve found they are so hard to stick with and can really suck the joy out of life sometimes. My sister Wendy shared that she skips alcohol and unhealthy eating Sunday through Thursday and then eats delicious meals and enjoys wine on the weekends. I found THAT kind of plan is one that promotes balance and can actually work long-term. Because let’s face it – I love nothing more than a quality cheese plate and a chilled glass (or two) of sauvy-b!
What are the ways you find balance within the chaos of normal life?
Now for the linkup!